Showing posts with label raising a boy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label raising a boy. Show all posts

Wednesday, November 5, 2014

50 reasons why we love homeschooling


reasons to homeschool

1. We have lots of quality time together.
2. We can arrange our schedule according to our own needs.
3. My son can work ahead when it suits him.
4. We have time to review concepts and skills as much as necessary if they are difficult.
5. We meet a much wider variety of people than we ever did before.
6. We have time to explore new places and new situations.
7. We can drop everything for once-in-a-lifetime events.
8. My son has mentors from many more areas of his life than he ever did in a traditional school.
9. We can learn in our pajamas if we feel like it.
10. I worry a lot less about his food allergies.

11. No one makes fun of him at lunchtime if he doesn’t have the current popular snack.
12. It’s ok that he isn’t the slightest bit athletic.
13. It’s ok that he loves music and art.
14. He has taught himself computer coding and scripting.
15. He has friends on three continents.
16. We were able to drive cross-country (twice) when other kids were either in school or getting ready to go back to school (he’s been to 25 states now).
17. None of his friends or mine find his large vocabulary disturbing.
18. Without the distractions and interruptions that are a normal part of a traditional school, a “school day” takes half the time it used to and without the commute.
19. My son has taught himself many concepts that most kids don’t learn until college, if ever.
20. We have a lot more fun thanks to a lot more free time.

21. My son’s writing has blossomed now that he isn’t stuck to a particular rubric or school mandated curriculum.
22. My son has a practical understanding of math that isn’t taught at school.
23. We can indulge both academic and non-academic interests without sacrificing one over the other.
24. We don’t have to wait for school breaks to go out of town.
25. We’ve found tons of free or low-cost educational resources that are often better quality than school curriculum – we obtained quality while saving money.
26. We spend time on quality socialization rather than learning to manage bullying, conforming to dress codes, and so on.
27. Without getting into trouble or dealing with negative peer pressure, my son can excuse himself from activities if they don’t feel right or if the atmosphere feels dangerous, oppressive, stifling, or just wrong in some way.
28. My son can get enough sleep — he’s a teenager and they need more sleep.
29. We can take advantage of my son’s natural rhythms — he is far more alert and able to retain information in the evening hours.

30. Engrossed in a good book? We aren’t limited to a brief “silent reading” period — there’s plenty of time to read, and read, and read.
31. My son’s vocabulary is huge in large part due to all the reading we do.
32. We have time to discuss news stories in depth in addition to discussing media influence.
33. My son has a better understanding of how government is meant to work and how it actually works than most adults I know.
34. In public school, my son was socially awkward; as a homeschooler, he has found his tribe and now fits in.
35. His self-esteem skyrocketed after we began homeschooling.
36. He has learned better coping skills at home than he did in school.
37. He has learned to manage his perfectionist tendencies much better.
38. Going to family or kid-friendly places during off-peak hours is much more enjoyable.
39. As introverts, we can nourish our energy needs as much as we want.
40. The people and experiences in our lives are now much more diverse than they ever were before.

41. We can focus on what’s important to us and not whether or not he has the right backpack or shoes.
42. My son is more of an independent thinker now than he ever was in traditional school.
43. My son surprises me every day with something new that he has learned without having an academic lesson.
44. Instead of learning vocabulary and spelling from lists, he learns them from reading and context.
45. He is more curious about the world than ever before.
46. He has gotten over some phobias and obsessive problems by learning to face them on his own terms, in his own way, and on his own schedule.
47. We both have significantly less stress and anxiety in our lives.
48. We have time to stop and talk to people rather than rushing from one activity to the next since six to seven hours of our day aren’t taken up by a traditional school schedule.
49. Instead of learning multiple subjects from one teacher, my son can go to experts in each individual subject he wants to learn about.
50. It may not work for you, but it does work for us.

Monday, September 30, 2013

Dear Son...

Dear son,

You asked if I mind if you play some games on your PlayStation. I said, "I don't care." The truth is, I do care. When I say, "I don't care" what I mean is "I'm not concerned with whether or not you play video games right now. I am concerned with whether or not it brings you happiness."

Just as I spent a lot of time working on the skill of not apologizing for things I have no reason to apologize for, and just as I've worked at learning to not say yes to every little thing just to please others, I'm going to work on learning to be more precise when speaking to you. Instead of "I don't care", I'm going to work hard at telling you what I really mean.

When I hear someone say, "I don't care", even if I know that they don't mean any harm, I sometimes internalize the message, "I don't care about you." I know that is most likely not the speaker's intent, but I'm human. Sometimes that is the message I hear in the words "I don't care."

So, I'm going to be more careful in my speech from now on.

Instead of "I don't care", you'll hear:

  • Go ahead. Playing video games sounds fun right now.
  • Sure you can have the last cookie. I bet it will taste great!
  • Yes, you can stay up an hour later. I know you'll still manage to get up on time.
  • I love you bunches!
Love,
Mom

Monday, September 23, 2013

Dear Son...

Dear son,

It has been amazing to watch you grow up these past 15 years. I can barely remember life before you.
Son, I want you to know a few things as you continue to mature and move into adulthood.

Son, if you have goals and dreams for your life, don't let others hold you back. There will be doubters, haters, and scammers out there. Most of them are simply afraid - afraid to be left behind by you, afraid that they won't achieve their own goals, afraid of what will happen if they do achieve their goals.

Heck, maybe you are afraid too. I know I'm afraid...afraid of the unknown. I've spent a long time letting my fear of the unknown keep me for pursuing my goals. I've let others tell me that I'm not good enough, not smart enough, just not enough. Now, here I am at 39, less than six months away from 40, and I'm going after my goals - running at those goals I gave up years ago. There are still doubters, haters, scammers, and others who'd love to hold me back, but I don't care. Those aren't the people in my life that are important.

Choose the people that you share your goals and your life with carefully. Don't be seduced by slick words that aren't backed with real action and enthusiasm. If the people in your life truly care for you, they'll support you no matter what - even if they disagree with you or think you are crazy!

Plenty of people thought I was nuts for doing things as small as running a 5k and as big as moving us cross-country for graduate school. Plenty of people thought I was nuts for all kinds of things in between. But, I did them anyhow! The people who were truly worth my time are the ones that supported me along the way, inquired about how things were going for us, and encouraged me to keep at it!

If you have a goal or a dream, go for it!

Love,
Mom

Monday, August 27, 2012

The face of 14...

This past Friday, my baby boy turned 14 years old!!!

This what 14 looks like:

14 year olds express themselves, sometimes in ways that might drive some parents crazy, but not me.  In this case, my kiddo is taking after me in some very distinct ways!  When I was his age, I began experimenting with doing artsy stuff to my clothing, including drawing on my jeans with Sharpies, and eventually learning to paint on fabric.  As you can see, he's started with Sharpies on his favorite hat!

14 year olds are capable of doing a lot for themselves.  He's taken the lead in learning to cook over the past year, and recently cooked spicy Italian sausage, and has been scrambling his own eggs.

14 year olds also like to try new things with their physical appearance.  He knows that I won't let him get tattooed or pierced as long as he lives at home, but I don't mind hair dye and funky hair styles.  Most things you can do to hair are reversible!  You can just barely tell, but he has a purple tint here.  His hair has gotten significantly darker over the past two years, so next time he wants to dye it, we'll have to bleach first.

One thing that he hasn't lost as he matures into a young man is his love of drawing comics.  He draws them frequently, and several times per day he says, "I should make a comic of that!"
HAPPY BIRTHDAY JP!!!!

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Boy haircuts...

I had planned a post a few days ago focusing on homeschooling, and our plans for the upcoming school year, but instead I vented about the dump that is our (rented) home (read it HERE).  This post won't be about homeschooling either....maybe I'll get to that over the weekend.

Right now, I'm still fuming over the dump that is our (rented) home, and the repairs that have been redone incorrectly again, and the advice that "the mold will go away...eventually."

But, I'm also thrilled by how many views and comments my welcome post for the M.O.B. (Moms of Boys) Society post for their blog link up received.

And I'm also still chuckling because we had a little fun yesterday when JP decided long, thick, curly hair is just too much for 90F summer day with humidity, and finally asked me to cut his hair.  I've given my son over 90% of his haircuts in the past 13 years, but have never quite cut hair this long...except my own.  Did I mention that I cut my own hair? Yeah, I do.  There have been some embarrasingly bad cuts, but along the way, I've learned...

Anyhow...want a little laugh at the teenager's expense?  (He has given me authorization to post these photos...).

I measured his hair before we began...it was over 7 inches long when pulled straight.

PRE-haircut goofing around.  Funny face to match that 1970s style:

Mid-haircut, sporting 80s style shades, and well on his way to a Flock of Seagulls hairdo (I considered buying some gel just to see what we could achieve...):

And, finally, the cut that grandpa says "looks a lot better", and that one of my friends said "makes him look a lot older" but JP said, "Wow, that feels better!"
Whatcha think of the new 'do?

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Monday, July 16, 2012

Welcome M.O.B moms!

This post is part of the annual M.O.B. Society Link Up.  So....welcome M.O.B. moms and all the rest of my readers!  For those of you that are new to M and J in a Nutshell, M is mom (me!), and J is JP (my son).  I'm a single mom, homeschooling a 13 year old boy, wrangling a boxer/bulldog/possibly-terrier-too dog, and working a couple of different jobs to keep us going.

M and J in a Nutshell is where I share whatever comes to mind!  I try to focus on homeschooling and single parenting, but you will also find recipes, study aides, and a lot more on this blog.  Occasionally I post about my Etsy shop, and sometimes I vent about our horrible apartment (want to help us move? See THIS POST for details).  We live just outside New York City, and thus I also blog about our adventures in Manhattan from time to time.

The dog, Rowdy, thinks she should help JP with his science schoolwork.
We are eclectic homeschoolers meaning that we do regular lessons, but we pull from a variety of resources instead of using a standard curriculum.  In some areas we also lean towards unschooling.  We also have food allergies, so all of our recipes are dairy and soy free, and many are also either vegetarian or vegan.

We love to hike, take walks with our dog, explore Manhattan, learn about science and history, do art projects, and read.  Legos are a favorite toy, even with my son in his first year as a teenager, and we love pretty much all of the games made by Cranium (lots of different games for lots of different ages!).

You can also find us on Facebook HERE...
or on Twitter HERE...
or on Pinterest HERE...
or at our Etsy shop HERE...
or on our other blog, Life of This Kind, HERE.

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Thanks for checking us out!  Now, I'm off to visit others from the M.O.B blog hop!
4th of July - the dog was scared and stayed in my lap the whole evening...she's too big to be a lap dog!
Just as I clicked the camera, the dog shot forward to sniff it!
Then, JP wanted to copy the dog...silly boy!
 




Friday, September 30, 2011

Funny faces...

JP and I haven't had the best of weeks.  But, we did salvage one night with some hilarity.  We were both bored, and out of sorts when I picked up the camera and started taking random pictures of JP.  What ensued was an hour or so of nonstop laughter...we both laughed so hard we couldn't talk, and tears sprang from our eyes.  We haven't had that much fun in a while!

A few of my favorite shots: